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Saturday is matchday (sat 16th March)

Leeds Utd have just lost at home to Sheff Utd. I paid for a Sky day pass. I was angry for a while as I felt (still feel) that this was the year they'd get back up but losing like this at home is a blow.

While i'm watching , the post comes. Its my report from my assessment last week.
 My wife  is out at her parents , her brother "P" is up to watch the Tigers. It would probably be good to talk to him but I don't want to sit in the living room with all eyes on me.  I say home, besides I have Leeds to watch as soon as I've cleaned the bathrooms which I promised to do yesterday.
I get them done in time and Leeds are great in the first half.

I start reading the report. I'm distracted. Leeds are playing brilliantly. I cant concentrate on both.
I choose Leeds.

Just before half time Dawn returns. has some lunch then goes out for a hair appt.

Leeds are losing . I'm angry.

A colleague texts suggesting a date for the memorial match for Aky. (I.H)
Its date I cant make as I'm away in Mexico but its a great date, bank holiday weekend.

I call him and discuss. I'm missing the game. I regret calling him because I'm missing the game.
I'm a twat, this is about Aky not Leeds, not me.  But Aky was a massive fan. I only just remember this as I'm typing now. Maybe I'm not a twat !

Its a short call.

Leeds lose.
I'm angry, send an angry text to (C.R) who's at the game. He doesn't reply which I expect because I know he'll me marching back to his car and then driving home.

He will be so angry he cant reply.

I calm down. its just a game. Dawn texts me to ask how I am after seeing that Leeds have lost.
I tell her I'm ok, "no one's died"

I just now realise the irony !!

Then youngest Son (A) calls and we have a good chat. He is so supportive and chatty that I get upset.

I've now had calls from 3 out of 4 sons. I try to imagine what it must be like as the son talking to your dad about his mental health. "Not easy" is my summary.

I read the report. Its odd seeing it written down. black and white.

There are no wise words today. Tomorrow My wife  and I are doing the memorial walk for a friends wife who died of cancer aged 46 leaving two children. They were 10 and 7 yrs old.

That's perspective for you.









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